The verbal techniques of reflective language, clear direction, and questioning, require special attention, to avoid the risk of violating especially protocols no negative attention to misbehavior and don’t correct the child.   So, practice using a series of safe words in situations when you might otherwise blurt out some harmful, negative language.  Using these safe words especially helps you avoid this type of destructive, negative language while you are feeling frustrated, upset, or angry.
While its wise to remain silent with children as much as possible, this is not always possible for effective Montessori teaching. However, without safe words, your verbal interaction can bring mistakes that are hard to notice and correct. For example, using such negative words as “no” and “don’t” is common and automatic in a misbehavior situation.  At these times, use safe words as examples and models to follow for positive language alternatives. Some of the most useful “safe words” are:
Come over here, Let me show you something (distraction — clear direction)
Take my hand (cooperative touching — clear direction)
Where does this go? (questioning)
Watch (when child says “I don’t know” to something to do — clear direction)